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Resurrecting Jewish Prejucide Shames American Jewish History

Dennis Prager is at it again misguidedly mixing his politics with his misreading of our Jewish faith to declare that Representative Keith Ellison’s request to take his oath of office on the Koran is un-American, intellectually dishonest, and comparable to taking an oath upon Hitler’s Mein Kampf. He also suggests that it is not good for the Jews. Groups as diverse as the Religious Action Center for Reform Judaism, the American Jewish Committee and the Anti-Defamation League, among others, dispute and decry Mr. Prager’s rant.

Mr. Prager, himself a kind of learned Jew and self-described student of Jewish history and literature, surely knows that the political, economic and social success of Jews has been based on our commitment to ensuring that America adhere to its openness to religions of all types without establishing by legal means or custom one religious practice or denomination over another. He knows that Jewish existence is America has been strengthened each time our American society has opened up more fully to our kind of religious life.

He should also understand that Americans – and American Jews particularly – take comfort in knowing that when our leaders to take their oath of office while holding onto the religious book (in what is essentially an unofficial public ceremony, of secondary importance to the official group swearing in), the sacred text is used to provoke their conscience to do what’s right, to uphold the promises articulated in the oath of office. For a committed Jew, as Prager knows, that book should be a Tanakh, the Hebrew Scriptures, not a Christian Bible (which includes the New Testament), because the former goads our conscience while the latter has no transcendent meaning for a Jew. Similarly, for a believing Muslim, that book is and should be the Koran.

To suggest that holding a Koran will lead to Islamic terrorism is akin to suggesting that holding the Christian New Testament will lead us back to Crusader murder and pillaging. It’s the misuse of a sacred text by some extremists, not the sacred text or the religion itself, which brings on to hateful violence.

We Jews have argued vigorously to remove religious tests of all kinds from our American political and judicial systems. We have fought rigorously against claims – blatant and implied – that our love for Israel leads us to a dual loyalty that makes our patriotism suspect. Remember, it was not too long ago that many Christian Americans would dispute Prager’s assumption that Jewish values are in concert with American values. We put that argument to bed decades ago. Let’s not resurrect it now for another American religious minority. Bad political ideas deserve to be buried quickly and publicly. To do so is good for the Jews and better for America.

Let the words of Rabbi David Saperstein, Director of our Religious Action Center of Reform Judaism, help bury Prager’s shameless rant: The criticism by Dennis Prager of Rep. Keith Ellison’s use of the Koran for taking the oath of office is irreconcilable with American law and ideals as well as Jewish values and interests. Or those of the Anti-Defamation League. Or those of the American Jewish Committee. Or those of countless Jewish bloggers like Jewschool. Of course, in the end, you decide!

Darfur: Is This Another Case Where the World Sits Idly By?

I remain worried and saddened that we seem impotent to address the continuing genocidal violence that alights the Sudan and now neighboring Chad and other countries. Peace accords are signed; violations begin immediately. The website OurPledge.org, Americans Against the Darfur Genocide, headlines with: Darfur Humanitarian Situation Bleakest Ever; Khartoum Continues to Reject Deployment of Multinational Peacekeepers: The violence in Darfur is accelerating, and over 4 million civilians, two-thirds of Darfur’s entire population, now need emergency assistance in order to survive. In his Nov. 22 report to the UN Security Council, the UN’s aid chief Jan Egeland gave his most negative assessment yet of the genocidal destruction being committed throughout the region: “Villages, camps, and communities outside the urban centers of Darfur are again being burnt and looted. Women and children are abused, raped, and killed with impunity. Just ten days ago the village of Sirba saw three attacks by government forces and Arab militia that resulted in innocent civilians, mainly women and children, killed and injured. I met some of the victims in the hospital of El Geneina. A mother told me how she held her two-year-old daughter in her arms as the child was willfully shot in the neck by an armed man, despite her repeated begging to spare her daughter. The wounded child did, as I could see, miraculously survive and now recovers in the good care of the Sudanese local doctors. Neither the Government [of Sudan] nor the African Union was able or willing to show presence or deploy proactively in Sirba before the massacre, despite repeated warnings by villagers and aid workers of the impending attacks.” Meanwhile, Sudanese President Omar al-Bashir has repeated his opposition to a joint United Nations-African Union peacekeeping force for Darfur, a “hybrid” arrangement supported by the United Nations as well as the Bush administration. According to Bashir, “Any talk that we [the Sudanese government] accepted joint forces is a lie.” This genocide is a problem we CAN solve! Why aren’t we? We Jews, who have experienced this and worse, should be particularly concerned and vocal. That’s why we are and must remain involved with Jewish World Watch.

Have You Ever Experienced Holiness?

I am captivated by our Biblical ancestor Jacob’s sudden connection with holiness. In the middle of nowhere, he experienced the Holy One. At a moment when he least expected it, he touched the Sacred. What was this all about? Where was this place?
My friend, Rabbi Martin S. Lawson, in a Torah commentary, Our Place And God’s Place, wrote:
One of the recurring words in the portion provides a clue to Jacob’s life and to ours. That word is makom, meaning “place,” and it occurs seven times in the first ten verses. On this perilous journey fleeing from his past, Jacob comes bamakom, “upon the place,” and decides to spend the night there. The text itself does not tell us where this was.… It is to this very spot that Jacob flees from his brother Esau’s anger. It is the spot from which Jacob takes a stone to form a pillow and where he lies down. In this place, Jacob dreams of the stairway linking earth and heaven. He awakens, transformed by the night vision. Now he is able to see, to sense Hamakom, a euphemism for the Divine Presence. Just as his grandfather before him came to understand what God asked of him, so now Jacob enters into a relationship with Hamakom–with the ultimate “Place,” with God. Suddenly Jacob is more aware of the task that lies before him. But he still wants to negotiate, to bargain for his way of doing things. Do we bargain like a Jacob? He still is not fully transformed, despite his awareness of the Divine. Are we able to remain in full contact with our highest spiritual self at every moment? Like Jacob, each of us must shake ourselves awake and search for the sense of wonder that he experienced in that lonely place. Jacob cries out, “How awesome is this place! This is none other than the abode of God, and that is the gateway to heaven” (Genesis 28:17).
Have you ever had a sudden experience of holiness? Of being connected with something greater than yourself? Have you ever experienced God’s presence in your life? Do tell…

Are Bagels Jewish Food? Legend Has It…

I always wondered what makes bagels Jewish. In Haaretz, Doram Gaunt writes Getting a Rise Out of Bagels: When people talk about Jewish food they think of tcholent, kneidlach or gefilte fish, but the Jewish food that has won the greatest popularity among non-Jews in the world is in fact one that many don’t even know is ours. Legend has it that in 1683 a Jewish Viennese baker wanted to thank the king of Poland for protecting the people of his country from an invasion by the Turkish army. In honor of the king, who was fond of horsemanship, the baker prepared a round roll with a hole in the middle to suggest the shape of a stirrup (Buegel in German). However, the uniqueness of the roll was not in its shape but rather in the way it was made: cooking in boiling water before baking gave the dough that had risen slowly a particularly dense texture and the moisture protected the surface from scorching at the high baking temperature and created a shiny, brown and moderately crisp crust.
The bagel spread rapidly among the Jews of Poland, and then migrated and captured hearts in other countries of Central and Eastern Europe. At the end of the 19th century Jewish immigrants brought the bagel to New York, and transformed it into one the city’s culinary symbols. Read on

Thanksgiving Vision: Spiritual Lessons Learned during LASIK Surgery

A few days before Thanksgiving, almost 35 years to the day that the world first went blurry for me, I decided to get LASIK surgery. The steady hand of master ophthalmologist Dr. Jonathan Davidorf of the Davidorf Eye Group in West Hills performed LASIK surgery on my eyes, and in the process gave me something else to be thankful for this Thanksgiving. It was truly a spiritual experience. The hours before the procedure passed by in a blur. No need for worry: the dangers of LASIK appear to be miniscule and Dr. J (as Jonathan Davidorf is known), who literally wrote a book on LASIK, has performed thousands upon thousands of these procedures. Still, there is beauty in this world that one should stop to behold. So before shuffling my children off to school, I examined the faces of each of them, pausing to draw a detailed mental picture (freckles and all) of their features. Later I stood silently outside, sweeping my eyes 360 degrees around, taking in the rainbow of colors that make up the fall foliage. Wow, how could I not notice the multiple hues of reds and greens, yellows and gold, peach and pink? Then, precisely at 3:00 pm, after kissing my wife, I walked forth into the Doctor’s office, glancing back one more time just to see her smiling face framed by flaming red hair that I love so… The procedure ended quickly as I expected. I tried out my shapely new eyes by reading successful the clock halfway across the room. At this point I wondered, now that Doctor Davidorf, so patient and calming, finished doing God’s work to open the eyes of the blind, will I merely see better? Or will this make me more appreciative of my life and the world around me?I wrote Thanksgiving Vision: Spiritual Lessons Learned during LASIK Surgery about my spiritual experience of LASIK surgery.

Can There Be Holiness (and a Reason for Thankfulness) in the Midst of Suffering?

It’s so moving in this week’s parasha (Torah portion) Toledot, when Rebecca, in the midst of her pregnancy, cries out to God. We read in Torah: But the children struggled in her womb, and Rebecca cried out,Im ken lama zeh anokhi – If so, why do I exist?’ She went to inquire of the Eternal and the Eternal answered her: ‘Two nations are in your womb, two separate peoples shall issue from your body; one people shall be mightier than the other, And the older shall serve the younger’ (Gen. 25:22-23). We ask, is she complaining? Is she just in pain? Does she wonder if God is punishing her? My teacher Rabbi Jonathan Slater of the Institute for Jewish Spirituality reminds us that Rebecca, as our Sages and teachers hold, is a tzadkanit, a fully righteous woman. It would be unbecoming for her to complain about her lot, to exhibit any sort of doubt of God’s righteous judgment and perfect providence. Her outburst of pain and exasperation does not befit her character. So what is happening here? I ASK: Have you ever found yourself wondering why you suffer in a particular manner? How did you work through your pain? What answers did you find? How did you arrive at them? How did you get through your suffering? Our ancient teacher, Rabbi Levi Yitzhak of Berdichev (1740-1810) illuminates the contradictory emotions welling up inside of a suffering Rebecca – she simultaneously wonders if she is being punished for her sinfulness by God (the Ar”i says that righteous women suffer no pain in childbirth – yeah, right!). Rabbi Jonathan Slater interprets Kedushat Levi’s insights: We can understand it in this way. All people experience suffering, and perhaps women – through childbearing – even more so. That generates the fundamental human inquiry: why do I suffer? We probe and inquire, we analyze and assess, all in the effort of coming to an answer. We try to plumb the nature of suffering and to know its source and meaning. Rebecca did just that, and found herself boxed in a corner. She had two theories to explain her suffering, but they turned out to be contradictory in her own experience. She was stymied, almost to the point of despair, of giving up on life. Levi Yitzhak, through this lesson, offers a response: suffering arises from misunderstanding the nature of existence. It comes from seeing a world divided between holiness and impurity, between good and evil, between nation and nation. Suffering arises from participating in the generation of further conflict and opposition, in setting what is in contention with what we want, expect, fear. The way out of suffering is not through reasoning, through dissecting, through analysis; is not through seeking explanations. Rather, it is indeed through turning to God, where oppositions do not exist, where only good prevails.What do you think?

[Some pre-Shabbat Learning, adapted from SELECTIONS FROM KEDUSHAT LEVI, by Rabbi Jonathan Slater of the Ongoing Text Study Program, of The Institute for Jewish Spirituality]

People Who Inspire Me: Two HUC Interns Walking the Breast Cancer 3-Day

In between their overwhelming studies and their huge responsibilities running our Mishpacha Family Alternative Learning program, two HUC interns, Rebecca Saliman and Rachel Isaacson, walked the Breast Cancer 3-Day Walk in San Diego to support the Susan B. Komen’s foundation. They were part of a 15 member team of students and friends from Hebrew Union College. The team, led by Rachel Isaacson, was named Emunah (believe in Hebrew), because they believe in a world without breast cancer. Team Emunah raised over $39,000 for breast cancer research and medical assistance, and ranked 24th for fundraising out of over 900 teams in the San Diego walk. To make time beyond the daily grind to participate in gemilut chasadim (acts of lovingkindness), especially for people you really don’t know: that makes them inspirational.

Rachel’s experience is shared on her blog.

Rebecca writes:

I was touched…
I was touched by just how many people came out to support us. As we walked through the streets of San Diego, thousands of people lined the streets, giving us high-fives, candy, pins, stickers for our name cards, and smiles of encouragement. People dressed up in funny costumes and met us along the way. I looked forward to seeing “Smile Guy and Little Grin,” a father and his three-year-old daughter who were dressed up in yellow smiley-faced outfits and handed out stickers. When we walked through a residential area, one family stood at the top of the hill and cheered as we reached the top, “you know where you are?” they shouted, “YOU’VE REACHED THE TOP OF THE HILL!” As we were about to walk up a really steep hill on the second day, people lined the entire base of the hill, high-fiving us on our way up; somehow the hill didn’t seem so ominous. One woman made thousands of home made cookies for us at rest stop 5–just what I needed after miles 15,16, and 17 on the second day. It felt like everyone was behind us, encouraging us, pushing us, motivating us. It was amazing.

I was in awe…
I was in awe of a woman who has walked in every single Breast-Cancer-3-Day walk this year (12 in all). I was in awe of two sisters who walked for their third sister who was battling breast cancer and died the first night of the walk…and the two sisters kept walking. The walk was a celebration of life.

I was sad…
I was sad when I walked through the tent of remembrance and I saw photos of people who were registered to walk in the San Diego Breast Cancer 3 Day but never made it to this weekend. People wrote the names of people they were walking for…thousands of names. And I realized just how many people are affected by breast cancer and just how many people are invested in finding a cure.

I laughed…
I laughed as we sang while we walked, at the man who was dressed up as a mammogram machine (wearing a box with two holes cut out and a sign: place breasts here), at the crazy sweep vans completely covered by bras, at the walkers’ creative costumes (i.e. the boobies – dressed up as bubble bees). I laughed because though people’s feet were covered in blistered, we were all still smiling.

I walked 60 miles in three days and it was amazing. As we completed the last mile and entered Pet-co stadium for closing ceremonies, I walked, teary-eyed, through a tunnel of walkers who had already finished. They slapped my hands as person after person looked into my eyes and said, “Good job. You’re amazing. You did it.” We all did it…4,500 walkers, 450 volunteer crew…and the entire city of San Diego behind us all the way. My team of 15 Hebrew Union College students and friends raised over $40,000 and together we raised 11.3 million.

Israel Gets It Right on Gay Marriage. Well, Partially.

Our Jewish homeland Israel got it right, partially, in terms of gay marriage when its High Court of Justice (“Supreme Court”) ruled six to one that five gay couples wedded outside of Israel can be registered as married couples. As Yuval Yoaz reports on Haaretz’s website:

A sweeping majority of six justices to one ruled that the civil marriages of five gay couples obtained in Toronto, Canada, can appear as married on the population registry. The gay petitioners sought to force the state to give equal recognition to common law marriages of heterosexual couples to those of gay marriages, which can be performed in certain countries.

While gay and lesbian Jewish couples still cannot be married within Israel, this is a step in the right direction for a Jewish state. Worry not about the comparisons to Sodom and Gemorrah. Jewish authorities from the prophet Ezekiel 16:46-50 to present times recognize that the sin of those two cities was their greed and selfishness.

May the rest of the world (America too) follow Israel’s lead.

Jewish Journal Praises ABC’s The Nine “Shabbat Dinner” Episode

Following our lead, the Jewish Journal’s Shoshana Lewin published an article, Will Shabbat dinner drama hold ‘Nine’ viewers captive?, on the upcoming Shabbat Dinner focused episode of The Nine.

“Rabbi Kates and his wife, Sheryl, recently invited their doctor-son and his girlfriend of two years to Shabbat dinner. Nothing too out of the ordinary there — unless you consider the fact that the couple is not married, although the young woman is pregnant and they broke up during a 52-hour crisis where they were held hostage at a bank. And did we mention the Shabbat dinner took place on a soundstage and the rabbi’s wife is played by JoBeth Williams? You gotta love sweeps month!”

Since I introduced the author to the episode, she quoted me, writing:

Yes, Jeremy is a flawed character (he sleeps with Franny after the funeral), but it is a TV show and, as Rabbi Paul Kipnes, of Reform Congregation Or Ami in Calabasas, said, “Everybody has tsuris, otherwise it wouldn’t be interesting. [Jeremy] is an accomplished Jewish doctor, bright, handsome, outgoing, confident — and profoundly human.”

Kipnes, a big fan of the show, said the Kates’ portrayal of a Jewish family “was refreshing. [In the previews,] I saw something about Shabbat and thought, ‘This was good.’ [Jeremy] has lunch with his mom, who is not neurotic and doesn’t shriek, shout ‘oy gevalt’ or pressure him,” Kipnes continued. “She speaks to him out of love. His father starts to pressure him a little bit during Shabbat dinner, but then he just stops and listens … this is not Woody Allen.”

ABC’s The Nine: Jewish Character with Functional Jewish Family

The Nine: Seek Solace and Support with Family on Shabbat

On Friday, I had the opportunity to view an advanced copy of this week’s episode of The Nine, ABC’s hit show about nine strangers who end up in a bank robbery that has gone terribly wrong. SWAT storms the bank, rescuing the hostages and capturing the robbers – but two people are dead. These nine survivors are now banded together as an unlikely family, as they re-enter their lives and grapple with how this seminal event has changed them forever. The series asks: “How do we heal from the harrowing experiences that impact our lives?” It is about hope and rebirth, as the characters try to reinvent themselves in positive ways or are haunted by fateful decisions from which they are still struggling to recover. Each week I find myself haunted by the tsuris in of their lives. Perhaps this is because if you trade out the central horror of the bank robbery for the numerous other tragedies they face – the death of a loved one, broken relationships, challenging children, exhausting parents, job loss and more – you notice quickly that their struggles are our struggles. We each walk a similar path. So how do we get through?

In this week’s episode we bear witness to the transformative possibilities within Judaism. Meet Dr. Jeremy Kates, an accomplished Jewish doctor who is bright, handsome, and outgoing, and has a thriving career and a warm and wonderful personal life. However, like so many of us, he is profoundly human and struggles with the darkness that consumed

his life (during the robbery). How does Dr. Kates begin his personal transformation? Sitting around the Shabbat dinner table, surrounded by family, talking to his parents.

Cut to an exquisitely adorned Shabbat table, hear blessings recited flawlessly in familiar Americanized Hebrew over the candles, Kiddush and challah. (This might be the first time we have heard such blessings spoken correctly on TV). Dr. Kates’ parents are touching in their concern, appropriately respectful in their probing (definitely NOT the stereotype of Jewish mother made infamous by Woody Allen and his ilk). This could be my family and yours, where family members are talking (not screeching) and caring (not critiquing) each other. Healing happens on Shabbat at the festive table, surrounded family. A reaffirmation of the power of two components of Jewish living: meaningful Shabbat ritual and compassionate Mishpacha (family).

Incidentally, I am told that this groundbreaking positive television portrayal of a Jewishly-identifying lead character and his nurturing Jewish family are an outgrowth of the MorningStar Commission, founded by Hadassah, which advocates for a healthier diversity of portrayals of Jewish women in the media and entertainment industry. Mazel tov to Or Ami congregant Olivia Cohen-Cutler, senior VP at ABC, who is chair of the MorningStar Commission.

This The Nine episode – a bissel of Torah on TV – airs on ABC Wednesday, November 22nd at 10 pm.

[Catch Up on Previous Episodes of The Nine]

TV Teaches Torah Lessons. Really!


We all have tsuris (troubles). Some harsher, some more manageable. But we all have tsuris. Most of us are searching for some semblance of sanity in the midst of it. Seeking perhaps those wise words which show us a way beyond the tsuris. You might find your wisdom in self-help books, at the therapist’s, at the Temple. Recently, I found my life’s lessons on television. Three quality shows – Day Break, The Nine and Heroes – captured and held my attention. Each is incredibly engaging and, in between all the intense drama, the well-drawn characters I can connect with and the usual spurts of violence, each broadcasts significant lessons for life. That’s right. There were teachings worthy of Torah on TV!
Day Break: Fix the Man, Fix the Day

Last Saturday night Michelle and I took in a screening of Day Break, ABC’s engaging new series about a guy who wakes up each day to again face the horror of yesterday. Produced by Or Ami member Matt Gross, Day Break asks: “Did you ever have a day so bad you couldn’t wait to get past it? The kind of day nothing goes your way, and everything turns out wrong. What would happen if you couldn’t put this day behind you…literally?” The protagonist Brett Hopper (played by Taye Diggs) has one advantage in his favor – he remembers everything he did the “day before” that did not work. Still, it is a painful learning process because he carries the bruises from every mistake-filled day as he tries to find the delicate balance between doing what’s important and doing what’s right.

Once my heart stopped racing from Day Break’s nonstop action and emotional rollercoaster, I found myself transported back to a lecture years ago. We were discussing the interrelationship between tikun olam (repairing the world) and tikun atzmi (repairing oneself). The lecturer explained that the world cannot be repaired unless and until we simultaneously repair ourselves. To move forward in life, and to move our world forward toward healing and greater morality, we must engage in tikun atzmi – searching inward to uncover our deficiencies and mistakes, and then working purposefully to make good on them. A world full of broken people remains just that – broken. Unless we transform ourselves, learning from our mistakes and healing our relations with others, we are destined, like Brett Hopper in Day Break, to relive the painful, in one form or another, over and over again. So as they say, fix the man (or woman) and you will fix each day.

A bissel – little bit – of Torah on TV, Day Break plays on ABC on Wednesday nights.

[Check out the Day Break Preview and/or the First Act on Video

Rabbi’s Buddy Stuns Calabasas


Dr. Andy Krasnoff writes: Rabbi Ron Stern of Stephen S. Wise Temple was our Scholar-in-Residence this past week. A colleague of Rabbi Paul Kipnes from rabbinic school in New York, the two have remained close friends for many years. R. Stern spoke at Friday Shabbat services about helping congregants deal with the death of loved ones and about their concepts of the afterlife. On Monday evening, he led a group discussion about the teaching of evolution verses the teaching of “Intelligent Design” in our schools, and the political and sociological consequences of this. At the Wednesday “Torah lunch” group Rav Ron explored with our group the Jewish concept of the afterlife and the historical and Biblical origins of our beliefs. Rabbi Stern is a gifted and engaging speaker and discussion leader. Many thanks for coming and learning with us!

Time Magazine Skews Debate Over Science and Religion


Last Monday night, Rabbi Ronald Stern of Stephen S. Wise Temple taught about the interrelationship between science and religion. He believes that overlap between the two disciplines is important for our society and world, but we must be very careful not to misconsture the nature of that overlap. The article on God vs. Science in Time Magazine is an example of how the overlap is misunderstood by both sides and results in science rejecting religion and religion presenting God as the answer to that which science does not understand. Science answers “how” while religion answers “why”. The Intelligent Design proponents falsely argue that the gaps in scientific knowledge can be attributed to God’s intervention. While we may see God’s hand throughout creation, the lack of scientific evidence is not evidence of God’s presence.

Comforting the Afflicted: Making Comfort Bags for Abused Kids at Mitzvah Day


I write all this in the aftermath of a most incredible Mitzvah Day at Congregation Or Ami. I am kvelling (beaming proudly) about our response to one problem in the world: the pain of children removed by necessity from their homes in the middle of the night to escape neglect or abuse. Often leaving with only the shirts on their back, these children will now receive, with love from Or Ami, one of 300 Comfort Bag filled with age-appropriate clothing, games to play, stuffed animals to hug, books to read, journals to write/color in, toiletries to clean with, and a personalized pillow case on which to lay down their exhausted little heads to sleep. So last Sunday our little Congregation was filled – bima to bathroom and closet to kitchen – with countless families and innumerable donated items. Shining our light on the injustice these children face, Or Ami turned back (instead of “turning its back”) to help. Thanks to the leadership of Social Action Chair Laurie Tragen-Boykoff, her volunteers and all who donated items or tzedakah. So I schep nachas (sharing the joy) each time I think about our Mitzvah Day caring.

And still I worry, have we done enough?

Our World Needs Some Fixing!


Children are starving, neglected, and abused. Adults are struggling to pull themselves out of the poverty or pay for the medical care their families need. Whole cities are trying to rebuild after devastation unimaginable. Our soldiers spread out around the world, fighting for our values, yet stumbling about through the fog of war. Genocide is again an active force in our world just sixty years after Jews barely survived its murderous clutches. The heat rises, the environment changes, yet our addiction to the black elixir continues. Our world is in need of fixing. So what are YOU going to do about it?

Look to the Torah for some great Jewish role models!