A tribute to my rabbi, mentor, and friend, Stanley M. Davids, who died recently.
Category: blog archive
Sanctuary in a Jazz Club
A jazz club. A Torah whisper. A T-shirt with a prophet’s promise. Reflections from the CCAR rabbinic convention on listening for the sacred in unexpected places—and improvising our way toward hope.
From Tohu VaVohu to Tikvah
A spoken word poem about facing the reality before our world
The Things We Do for Love
Love lives in the details—the small, intentional acts that show we care. Vayakhel teaches us that just as the Israelites built the Mishkan with devotion, we create holiness in our own lives through everyday gestures, like getting the right mustard and mayonnaise for my wife—because love, like faith, is best expressed in the language the other understands.
Prayer for When a Loved One Faces Dementia (or Alzheimer’s)
A heartfelt prayer for those caring for a loved one with dementia or Alzheimer’s, offering words of compassion, strength, and hope. It asks for patience in the face of loss, love that endures beyond memory, and the grace to cherish what remains.
From Lockdown to Legislation: Our Teens Demand Change
What does it take for a teenager to stand in a senator’s office, look a legislative aide in the eye, and say, “This is personal”?
For the remarkable teens of Congregation Or Ami (Calabasas, California), it took courage, conviction, and a deep belief in the power of their own voices. This past week, a group of our young leaders traveled to Washington, D.C., for the Religious Action Center for Reform Judaism’s L’Taken Social Justice Seminar. Over four days, they immersed themselves in the intersection of Jewish values and public policy, learning how to turn their beliefs into action.
They studied issues ranging from gun violence prevention and LGBTQ rights to combating antisemitism and supporting Israel, and they prepared to advocate—not just in theory, but in the halls of power, before the very people who shape our country’s laws.
An Experience That Empowers
This transformative experience was made even more powerful by the incredible team at the Religious Action Center, whose thoughtful programming provided the framework for our teens to learn, explore their values, and find their voices. The RAC staff ensured that each student felt prepared to advocate with confidence, giving them the tools to turn passion into action.
But the true power came from the teens themselves.
“My Voice is Powerful. My Voice Can Change the World.”
On Sunday night, after a day of deep learning, our teens sat together, fueled by junk food and passion, drafting the speeches they would deliver on Capitol Hill. As we gathered in song, we kept singing the words of Jewish composer Elana Arian:
“I have a voice. My voice is powerful. My voice can change the world.”
These words became their anthem.
Because for them, advocacy was not an abstract exercise. It was deeply personal.
When Advocacy Becomes Personal
One teen stood before a legislative aide and described the terror of being in lockdown at Agoura High School when two students brought guns onto campus. Another shared their experience of having a swastika drawn on their arm by a classmate, and then a different teen recounted the pain of hearing Holocaust references hurled as insults, turning their history into a weapon against them.
And others, with deep love for their Jewish homeland, spoke about their connection to Israel and the need for continued support and security.
With remarkable poise and confidence, they stood before the offices of Senator Alex Padilla and Congresswoman Julia Brownley and demanded to be heard.
And they were.
Legislative aides leaned in, listening intently. They asked questions. They took notes. They promised to report back.
A Tradition of Justice
Our tradition calls us to this work. The Torah commands: “Tzedek, tzedek tirdof”—“Justice, justice you shall pursue” (Deuteronomy 16:20). Not wait for. Not hope for. Pursue.
This is what our teens did. They took their pain, their passion, and their Jewish values, and they pursued justice—not just for themselves, but for their peers, their community, and the world.
They embodied the call of our prophets: “Learn to do good; seek justice; correct oppression” (Isaiah 1:17). They understood that Judaism is not just about prayer and study but about action.
Guided by Dedicated Leaders
Throughout this transformative experience, our Or Ami teens were led by Andrew Fromer, our Youth Engagement Coordinator, and Rabbi Lana Zilberman Soloway. Their leadership helped shape an experience that empowered our students not only to find their voices but to use them with purpose.
I had the privilege of flying in for just 36 hours—right after a Bar Mitzvah—to be with them. And let me tell you: witnessing these young leaders advocate with such passion left me humbled and inspired.
Investing in the Future
Because of the generous support of the Myron and Nancy Dembo Social Justice Initiative, the Rosenbluth Family Charitable Foundation, and the Rabbi Kipnes Discretionary Fund, these young leaders – Tali Allsbrook, Holden DiSante, Jonah Pasternak, Lily Plonka, Joshua Praw, Talia Sitomer, and Hannah Tirsch – had the opportunity to step into the role of advocates and changemakers. Their voices matter. Their actions matter. And this week, they made a difference.
But their work isn’t done. Neither is ours.
As a community, we must continue to nurture and uplift our young people, ensuring that they always know their voices belong in the rooms where decisions are made.
Because if this trip showed us anything, it’s this: when our Or Ami teens speak, the world listens.
Kol Nidre: A Time Machine
If Kol Nidre is really an Aramaic legal formula, why do we keep singing it?
When the World Seems Hopeless
How to find hope when the world feels hopeless.
My Chiropracter Prepared Me for Rosh Hashana
How my chiropractor prepared me for Rosh Hashana.
A Mantra for When Life is Full of Stress
How to respond when life out there is so full of stress that we often want to pull back, circle the wagons, and just take care of ourselves.
They Spit on the Sefer Torah
In an act so heinous to Jews, an orthodox Jewish young woman spit on the Torah scroll. That's what the ultra-orthodox leadership is fostering in their opposition to Women of the Wall and of progressive Judaism.
Addressing the Lingering Loss of Covid-era Zoom Bar/Bat Mitzvah Students
A service to address the lingering loss for covid-era zoom Bar/Bat Mitzvah ceremonies. Far too many became B'Mitzvah away from the synagogue, instead taking the first steps on the path to becoming an adult on Zoom. It is time for staff teams to address the lingering sense of loss.
Leadership in a Time of Crisis: Resources for Rabbis
Reflections
When the Rabbi Feels Trauma in CCAR’s Journal of Reform Judaism (Fall 2019)
By Rabbi Paul Kipnes
So That’s What Rabbis Do: A Rabbinic Student Reflects on a Synagogue’s Fire Response
By (then Rabbinic Student, now) Rabbi Elana Nemitoff-Bresler
After the Fires: Celebrating Thanksgiving When Homes are Lost or Damaged
By Sally Weber MSW and Rabbi Paul Kipnes
How To’s
Rabbi’s Disaster To Do List: 10 Community-Restoring Actions from the SoCal Fires
By Rabbi Paul Kipnes and Rabbi Julia Weisz
Or Ami Outreach Calls Templates (Emergency and non-Emergency)
Template: Congregant Check-in Call Non-Emergency
Template: Congregant Check-in Call following natural disaster
Template: Evacuation Calls (Response Form)
Template: Non-Emergency Check-In Call (Response Form)
Responding to the Ventura Fires with Shabbat Dinner for 120
With Rabbi Lisa Hochberg-Miller and Rabbi Paul Kipnes
Communicating with the Community
Dear URJ Camp Newman friend: When the Sadness is so Deep: After Fires Burned Down Camp Newman Buildings
By Paul Kipnes
Open Letter to Camp Newman Teens, Staff and Alumni from Rabbi Paul (long)
Sermons
Rabbi, Do You Have a Faith That Gets You Through?
God Damn You, God! Taking God to Task in a Messed Up World
Prayers
A Prayer for these Fire-Filled Days
A Kaddish after Gun Violence: For When Humanity Fails Itself
When the Rabbi Feels Trauma
A mass shooting in a Pittsburgh synagogue.A mass shooting in the local dance bar.A raging fire, forcing the evacuation of the synagogue and 75 percent of our congregation. This is the story of when the rabbi experienced trauma after these events.
Parenting: The Challenging of Letting Go (spoken word poetry)
In this spoken word poem, explore how Abraham's parents might have felt as he went off from Haran to the Promised Land, in search of his future.